Things to consider before getting in to a new relationship.
Yeah, you’ve being tossed, messed up and squeezed; hell no!
You can’t do this again but huh!!!
This dude..mehn, this babe is already taking your breathe away.
Relax, you have to move on. The ugly experience of the past shouldn’t stand in your way of being happy again. We will look at somethings to consider before getting hooked up again so you don’t fall victim of heart break, lies or betrayal again
- EXAMINE YOURSELF: This is a very important thing to do. Ask yourself few questions like- who am I?.Yes, you really need to find your self first.Find out what you really want, what turns you on and off, your desires and needs.This is a neccesity.
- FORGET THE PAST: ..Ahhhh…. Always hear people say,I can’t get over my ex..hey! What’s that? You’re tying yourself down. Do you know that same ex could be having sweet fun and might not even remember you exist? Come on, let past be past. The easiest way to forget your past is forgiving yourself for allowing someone treat you less than you really deserved; then you forgive that person who was too blind to appreciate your worth BUT don’t for get the lessons because you will definitely need them in your new relationship.
- TIMING AND EXPECTATIONS: Remember how many years you spent with that ex? Remember how often you talked of how great your wedding would be? You even talked about the number of kids you would have huh? And after all the same ex left without giving a damn how you would feel..yeah! I’m sure youbdojt wana go into that shit again.so, this time around you have to give your self a very good timing. Especially the ladies, once you’re 23 you already should be in your husband’s house or planning seriously to get there. The guys at 26, trust me you are already very due. So, don’t get into a relationship with any time waster . set down your expectations so you don’t get hurt. If you want a fling, no big deal..you can consider any partner but one you need something serious then look out for a serious and ready partner. Don’t forget to ask and discuss this before getting in.A guy with a good job, car and house doesn’t guarantee readiness to settle down.
- GEOGRAPHY: Don’t get in if you can’t stand the distance and if you have to, be ready to adjust or plan to be with your partner asap. I’ve heard of couples in long distance relationships who broke up because they heard the sound of a car when they called while their partner claimed they were at home.”Sweetheart , how come I can hear sounds from the background; where are you? “Guess you don’t want to explain this every day so,consider the geography.
- ALL ROUND READIBILITY: Ofcourse you have to be ready all round. Ready to change somethings like how you dress, your social media activities, your character and certain attitudes, places you went to and people you spent time with.. You need to get ready to smile when you’re hurting bearing in mind that it won’t always be rosy.
Be ready to see friends of the opposite sex make posts and comments on your partner’s social media wall. Be ready to stand your partner’s moods, their laziness, nonchalance and everything you see. Above all, be ready to give your all and expect nothing in return.
These few steps if considered will definitely help you out in your new relationship. You deserve the best. Go for the best.