By Lizzy Adie.
To actually forgive is divine. Start by pinpointing the source of your hurt, was it a failure, a missed opportunity, a heart break, a person who was mean to you, or someone who neglected you? Get to the root of your pain. What are you feeling? Is it sadness, grief, anger, pity or loneliness? Or is it something deeper like hate, disgust, Jealousy, or depression. The hurt may strike more than one chort on your heart. Here are some few steps to totally live a life of true forgiveness.
1. Forgive yourself and let go : forgiveness starts from within, you were not the reason that someone hurt you. It’s not your fault, you need to forgive yourself first before you can have the capacity to forgive others. Only then are you able to let go of the negative emotions associated with the hurt caused by someone else.
2. Breathe in Comparison : let comparison flow, one breath at a time. First, with yourself, then for the person who hurts you.
3. Forget about the problem and move on to the solution of forgiveness. Give your forgiveness to that person with no strings attached.
4. Forgiveness is one of the most powerful way to empower personal growth. But for the forgiver and the forgiven. When you let go of the burden of the hurt and all the negative energy of the emotions associated with the hurt, you are giving the peace and freedom to live as a better version of yourself.
5. Love Again : forgiveness lets you love again. Once you forgive, your heart is full of love. You are stronger because you love yourself and love others no matter the magnitude of their transgressions. You forgive because you love, and you love because you forgive.
From www.undergroundhealth.com
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LOVE : How To Live A Life Of True Forgiveness.
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NEWS: I’ll surely defeat Buhari – Jonathan declares
President Goodluck Jonathan remains confident he will win a second term despite the growing popularity of his main challenger, Muhammadu Buhari.
With elections less than two weeks away, Mr. Jonathan told the BBC in an interview that he has nothing to worry about, as his ruling Peoples Democratic Party, PDP, remains the strongest party in Nigeria despite Mr. Buhari’s All Progressives Congress, APC’s widespread support.
“I will surely win it… My party is still the strongest party,” the president said.
The interview was published Friday, a day after the chairman of PDP, Adamu Mu’azu, admitted the surging popularity of the opposition meant his party cannot secure a landslide in the presidential, parliamentary and governorship elections.
Mr. Mu’azu however expressed confidence that the PDP will “perform creditably”.
“Our major concern in the Peoples Democratic Party is not to allow the country to be hijacked by desperadoes masquerading as purveyors of good governance, who promise heaven and earth to the people without any intention of fulfilling their election promises in the name of change,” the PDP chairman said in a statement Thursday.
“While I do not see a landslide victory coming, I am convinced that our party will perform creditably in the Southwest and the North of Nigeria and elsewhere in all the elections this year because the evidence is clear that despite our travails at the beginning, we have done very well over the past fifteen years of our nascent democracy since 1999 to record victory. Those who disbelieve our resilience will be surprised for victory is ours.”
In a wide-ranging interview with the BBC, Mr. Jonathan repeated his comments that he believed the abducted Chibok school girls are alive since the jihadist sect, Boko Haram, has not shown they had been killed.
“We have not seen dead girls that is the good news. I believe they are still alive, I believe we will get them,” he said.
The president said the Nigerian military will hopefully recover the remaining territories under Boko Haram control in less than a month.
He said the group has grown weaker with the government’s renewed drive that has seen the military reclaim several towns held by the terror group.
“I’m very hopeful that it will not take us more than a month to recover the old territories that hitherto have been in [Boko Haram’s] hands,” Mr. Jonathan said.
“We never expected that [Boko Haram] will build up that kind of capacity. We under-rated their external influence. Since after the civil war we’ve not fought any war, we don’t manufacture weapons, so we had to look for help to re-equip our army and the air force.”
On violence during his presidency, Mr. Jonathan said he took responsibility for “whatever goes wrong”.
“Whatever goes right, I take the glory,” he said. “Whenever I hear that somebody dies in Nigeria… I feel pain, because they are all Nigerians.”
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LIFESTYLE: Checkout 5 Reasons sleeping with someone else will not help you get over your Ex Read full gist here:
There was once a point (or two) in my life when I resorted to hooking up with people to get over other people. Heartbreak can sometimes make us do desperate things…. I didn’t want to throw myself around like that. I’m the type of girl who enjoys relationships, consistency and being with one person at a time. But, when you lose someone you care about, you lose a part of yourself, whether temporarily or not. This guy who broke my heart made me empty promises that kept me optimistic. He said he loved me, introduced me to his family and said I was unlike anyone he had met. But, words can only hold so much value when the actions don’t match up. We started having problems because he had commitment issues. Emotionally, I couldn’t do it anymore. I had the nerve to walk away from him, but with some repercussions: I resorted to a sex-binge to cure my sadness. That’s like a recovering drug addict turning to alcohol for solace, or a long-time vegetarian trying meat again for the first time. And, nine times out of 10, the effects will be awful. Here’s why: Leading with the physical limits the mental In the hook-up culture that is the 21st century, we get too caught up with sex and the sexual aspect of relationships. We constantly wonder, “Is he or she using me? Does he or she think I’m good in bed? Will I get more attached if we do the deed?” It’s ridiculous. Our first thoughts shouldn’t be about something so physical and insignificant, and if we meet someone new after a breakup, we definitely shouldn’t immediately think about leading him or her into the bedroom. Delve into this person’s mind, find his or her deepest secrets and learn about his or her family. Take the time to appreciate yourself and other people on a more substantial, rewarding level. It’s like putting a Band-Aid on a broken bone A temporary fix for a long-term issue is never a good idea. The first step is admitting that you are sad, emotional, broken, lonely, etc. There’s nothing wrong with being sad unless you try to cover it up and give everyone the infamous Meredith Grey, “I’m fine” spiel. You’re not fine. Sex won’t fix your problems or make you feel any less lonely. Ultimately, waiting to recover correctly on your own will only help the process of getting over whomever broke your heart.
Don’t grab a replacement human for your void. Be independent and grow from it. Emotionless sex will only make you feel worse We date one person and commit to him or her, sexually and emotionally, to not engage with people of the opposite sex unless in a friendly manner. Sharing that level of intimacy with someone else is distasteful and almost unimaginable. Yet here we are, heartbroken and sad, and we latch on to the nearest mate in search of something to supply familiar feelings and reassurance. You’re giving yourself away to someone about whom you couldn’t care less, and all the while, you think about the person who broke your heart. This will leave you feeling worse than you did originally. Sacrificing your self-worth for someone else isn’t acceptable One of the most important lessons I’ve learned thus far from relationships is that you will attract a certain kind of person based on how others perceive you. If you lack self-confidence, you’re uneasy and emotionally damaged, that’s the type of person who will try to be with you. This won’t work out — ever. Especially after heartbreak, you have to learn to love yourself again. Become independent, realize your strengths and appreciate your own worth. Know that your ex didn’t break up with you because you weren’t good enough. The “love yourself or nobody else will” phrase really comes into play in this situation. The only cure to heartbreak is time Everything in life is about timing, and often, it seems that you are the worst in the world at it. You met this person when you were too immature, you passed by this person when you had just gotten into a relationship, you just missed that bus to see this person… the list goes on. Just remember that there is a reason behind all of this madness. Timing is especially important after heartbreak. The quicker you try to rebound, the longer the recovery will be. Avoid the sex binges, the lust-crazy daydreams and the Tinder dates. Take time for yourself and you’ll be amazed by who will walk into your life next. So, what is the main lesson here, my friends?
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Entertainment: Chris Brown Now A Free Man As His Probation For Rihana Assault Ended
It was February May 2009 when Chris Brown Assaulted Rihana “His then girlfriend”. Before the incident the both were scheduled to perform on that same year Grammy award. Chris Brown who pleaded guilty almost six years ago by “felony assault” committed against Rihana. A judge in California ended the probation on Chris Brown on Friday. Chris Brown is now free from the supervision of a legal system for the first time since June 2009.
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Mathematical logic.. Attitude is everything.
By Nelson Amaobi Osuala
(extracted)If:
A B C D E F G H I J K LM N O P Q R S T U V W X Y Z
Is equal to;
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26Then
H+A+R+D+W+O+R+K ;
8+1+18+4+23+15+18+11=98%K+N+O+W+L+E+D+G+E ;
11+14+15+23+12+5+4+7+5=96%L+O+V+E;
12+15+22+5 = 54%L+U+C+K ;
12+21+3+11 = 47%None of them makes 100%.
Then what makes 100% ???Is it Money?
NO !!!M+O+N+E+Y= 13+15+14+5+25=72%
Leadership?
NO !!!L+E+A+D+E+R+S+H+I+P= 12+5+1+4+5+18+19+8+9+16=97%
Every problem has a solution, only if we perhaps change our “ATTITUDE”.
A+T+T+I+T+U+D+E ;
1+20+20+9+20+21+4+5 = 100%It is therefore OUR ATTITUDE towards Life and Work that makes
OUR Life 100% Successful..Amazing mathematics ، and thats why I love it cus it’s like our life.
Beautiful message!
🍃 Stay away from Anger..
It hurts ..Only You!
🍃 If you are right then there is no need to get angry,
🍃 And if you are wrong then you don’t have any right to get angry.
👏 Patience with family is love,
👏 Patience with others is respect.
👏 Patience with self is confidence and Patience with GOD is faith.
🎏 Never Think Hard about the PAST, It brings Tears…
🎏 Don’t think more about the FUTURE, It brings Fear…
🎏 Live this Moment with a Smile,It brings Cheer.
🙌 Every test in our life makes us bitter or better,
🙌 Every problem comes to make us or break us,
🙌 The choice is ours whether we become victims or victorious.
🌻 Beautiful things are not always good but good things are always beautiful.
🌻 Do you know why God created gaps between fingers?
🌻 So that someone who is special to you comes and fills those. gaps by holding your hand forever.
🌻 Happiness keeps You Sweet..But being sweet brings happiness.😊. Do Share it with all the beautiful People In your Life. Who are the 18 Friends u cant forget in ur life ever? Send only to those 18 just like i did. Lets see how many msgs u get back!
Start sending, Be honest! Only 18I value u.
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ISSUES OF LIFE: THE DILEMMA OF A RAPED VIRGIN
By Nelson Amaobi Osuala (modified)
It was a sad ordeal for sandra (Name withheld) a girl that why determined to the core. But little did she know that the movie recently released titled “The pregnant virgin” was a bad dream to be cancelled by her. She had a prototype, the likes of pastor Bimbo Odukoya of blessed memory, who married as a virgin at the age of 22,may be She wanted to be like the virgin daughters of philip in the bible who were prophetess as recorded in the holy writ of (Acts 21:9),It could be that she had read about Bishop Oyedepo and his wife Faith who married as virgins.
Sandra like any other destiny conscious teenager, got her dream shattered overnight by one destiny killer. Sandra in her wildest dream could not imagine that Tony could ever betray her based on the thrust she had developed in him.
“sandy” as she was popularly called by her admirers was in her ‘teens’. She comes from a decent christian background. She was a free type, which earned her the nickname ‘free girl’. She had a lot of female and male friends despite the warnings from her parents, who advised her saying ” you cannot give a dog a bone to keep’ in her remarks, she branded her parents as.. OLD SCHOOL PARENTS. And then went into a PLATONIC RELATIONSHIP WITH TONY. He was a very handsome and articulate guy like the bible informs that “… The heart of man is deceitful” (Jer 17:9), Tony’s heart was not an exception.
Sandra had been persuaded by Tony on several occasions to pay him a visit, which she refused owing to her parental advice. On different occasions she had sought advise from her friends, knowing that It is a fact that human beings can never be predicted, according to economists.
On one fateful day, she made up her mind to stop by on her way to the market. Tony was already waiting in a friend’s house. Tony quickly locked up the door as she entered, she pleaded heaven and earth but He was adamant as he was determined to ruin her. Sandra was under pressure, no where to hide. Tony’s demand was high, but she could not trade her virginity not for anything. Her PLATONIC RELATIONSHIP is about to become a “RAPE- TONIC” RELATIONSHIP. Who will help her out? Her only option was to scream but the Rap music was tunned to ‘are you nut’ frequency. Tony over – powered her and RAPED her.
She got home at 9:45pm. Her parents were tensed up already, ready to go to the police to declare that their daughter was missing. She cooked up a lie that she was arrested by the police but there is absolutely nothing hidden under the sun. Sooner than later, she noticed mucor coming out of her private parts. She was scared and told a friend by name Ada.
Later, her mother discovered that she was behaving funny. She was obviously going through an emotional trauma, meaning that she was emotionally imbalance, why? It was because Ada and her had prior to this time gone for test where she was diagnosed of “STAPHYLOCOCCUS AUREUS”, a deadly sexually transmitted disease. Ada advised her to commit suicide, but thank God for one of her Holy friend called Amaka.
Amaka advised she should tell her parents what had happened, which she did. They arrested Tony and with the help of sandra’s uncle who was a legal practitioner, Tony was charged for rape. The treatment of the disease cost sandra’s parents almost all of their life savings. But no amount for them was worth their only daughter’s life. I thought the parents would kill her after the cure of her disease but in the words of sandra.. “All that my father said was.. ‘thank God for his mercy, thank God It was not HIV or AIDS.. I know you have learnt your lessons, sandra. I know you now know that you cannot go into a platonic relationship with the devil.
Sandra is now very close to Amaka because she was a TRUE friend even in times of need. They both got admission to University of Calabar and They attend the same fellowship on campus. I HOPE THEY WILL NOT MARRY THE SAME HUSBAND OH.. (LAUGHS) -
SPORTS: Champions League quarter-final draw in full
Real Madrid's worst nightmare was confirmed on Friday when they were drawn in the quarter-finals of the Champions League against bogey side Atletico.
Carlo Ancelotti's men may be the defending champions – a title earned by beating Atleti 4-1 in last season's final – but they have failed to beat their city rivals in six attempts this season across La Liga, the Copa del Rey and Spanish Supercopa. The most recent clash ended 4-0 in Atletico's favour.
Madrid will get another chance to record a victory when they meet in the first leg at the Vicente Calderon on April 14. The return at the Bernabeu takes place eight days later.
Barcelona will resume hostilities with Paris Saint-Germain after being the first two clubs out of the pot in Nyon.
The pair met in the group stage with the French champions inflicting a 3-2 defeat on Barca before Luis Enrique's men extracted a degree of revenge by winning 3-1 at Camp Nou.
Of the three favourites to claim the trophy in Berlin on June 6, Bayern Munich will be the happiest with Friday's outcome.
Pep Guardiola's men were drawn against Porto, conquerors of Basel in the last round, with midfielder Thomas Muller admitting the draw “could have been worse”.
Juventus will also fancy their chances of progressing having been paired with Monaco. The principality side survived a second-leg pummelling by Arsenal to scrape into the last eight and will take on a Juve side which is not only running away with Serie A but also proved much too strong for Borussia Dortmund in the last 16.
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SPORTS: BBC v MSN – who has the best strikeforce, Real Madrid or Barcelona?
The culture of the individual is said to have taken over from the overriding team ethic of football. But on Sunday, two of the modern game’s greatest collectives come head to head as Barcelona meet Real Madrid at the Camp Nou.Yet it is still not the traditional match-up of 11 against 11 that has everybody transfixed so much as the face-off between the sport’s two greatest strike forces that has the world talking ahead of the latest Clasico.
While Real Madrid have the much-lauded BBC of Gareth Bale, Karim Benzema and Cristiano Ronaldo, Barcelona’s Lionel Messi, Luis Suarez and Neymar have been dubbed the MSN.
It is typical of the battle between the two clubs. Barca make headlines with Messi, Madrid with Ronaldo. The Blancos’ front-line has a nickname, so too must the Catalans trio have one.
But which is the best-performing of the two triumvirates as the Gran Derbi approaches?
In the opening half of the campaign Real Madrid’s superiority was summed up by the brilliance of their front three. They led La Liga with authority, collected the Uefa Super Cup and strolled to the Club World Cup title. All the while, Bale, Benzema and Cristiano were thriving.
Between them, the star trio bagged 57 goals in 71 appearances over Madrid’s 28 games before the winter break. At a combined rate of 2.41 goals per game the BBC were sending out one hell of a signal as Los Blancos looked set to steamroller the division, with 22 consecutive victories providing testament to their effect as a threesome.
But their form since the break has been nowhere near as convincing. In 2015, the front three are combining for 1.3 goals per game, down more than a goal on their average in the first half of the season.
And that fall has been replicated in Madrid’s results, with five defeats in 16 games seeing them fall off the top of the table, suffer elimination from the Copa del Rey and very nearly go down to a humiliating Champions League exit against Schalke.
Barcelona, on the other hand, have benefitted from far greater consistency in their front line. In a total of 52 appearances between their trio pre-Christmas, Messi, Suarez and Neymar netted 40 goals to give Barcelona an average of 2.3 per game.
And in 2015 they have added 42 more at a mean of 2.42, propelling the Catalans to the top of La Liga and into the final of the Copa del Rey, and most recently beyond English champions Manchester City in Europe.
Even in assists, it is Barca's boys leading the way. The MSN have racked up 24 assists this year compared to the BBC’s seven, meaning their interplay is directly resulting in more goals for one another.
There can be no doubting that they are the hottest attacking unit in the world at the moment, and former Barca star Rivaldo told Goal that it is the Messi-inspired Blaugrana front three which makes them the favourites at the Camp Nou.
“Both have brilliant players full of quality and goals. And each team’s forward line has one of the world’s best players leading them,” he explained.
“Messi’s form and goal-scoring at the moment means he can give Barcelona victory. But Real Madrid are a really strong team and they could surprise everyone and take a beautiful win.”
And David Villa is in agreement, the ex-Barcelona striker making it clear to Goal that he sees the tussle of the two attacking units being key to the result.
“Barcelona’s strikeforce is better than Madrid’s. That is all.”
It seems inevitable that the winning moment will come from one of the leading men. Messi or Ronaldo? Neymar or Bale? Suarez or Benzema? Form is with Barcelona’s three amigos, but their Madrid counterparts are due a return to their very best.
MSN or BBC? Sunday will decide who is the real headline act.
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ENTERTAINMENT: “Wizkid is Hard to Handle” – Basketmouth
Fans of popular Nigerian comedian, Basketmouth are in for a swell time as Africa’s biggest music channel, MTV Base brings an exclusive scoop into the comedian’s life on this edition of the documentary, A Day in the Life Of.
While sharing interesting facts about his life with the MTV Base crew, the comedian also commented on his working relationship with Wizkid, which he jokingly described as “stressful”.
Amongst other things, the documentary features the lucky couple that won “From Base With Love” competition as well as interesting facts about the comedian’s life. -
ECONOMY: Akwa Ibom in Flames!
By Edu Etukakpan| 19 March 2015| 1:00 pmWednesday 18 March will go down in the annals of Ikot Abasi in Akwa Ibom as a terrible day.In Ikot Akan, a petrol tanker alleged to be coming from Calabar NNPC depot, in the bids to negotiate the East-West road and proceed towards Port Harcourt capsized as the fuel was said to leak out.However, and luckily, there was no casualty; the driver and his two attaches is reported to have disappeared from the scene of the incident.The conflagration is said to have been triggered off when the inferno slipped towards a roasted meat vendor by the roadside at exactly 6:15 pm and continued for three hours.Officers of the state fire service department arrived very late, and were accordingly returned by angry villagers. The inferno was so intense that traffic was frustrated for awhile. The good news is that the fire outbreak did not catch up with any human life.